In the lead up to Yasmin’s 40th party, she had not once communicated to me what was happening, so I assumed she didn’t want me there. A few days prior, she told me her best friend and her Dad were staying over. I said no problem. About 3.15pm on the day of Fri 19/09/2025, I asked her whether her silence meant she didn’t want me there. She said “If you don’t mind.”. I expressed my disappointment. Not at the fact of not wanting me that she had not communicated it to me prior. I then asked her to confirm that it was just her Dad and friend staying over. She said “And anyone else too drunk to drive home.”. I told her absolutely not due to the fact she had never bothered to communicate it beforehand, and that I felt she was deceitful about it. She then said “Okay you can can (to the party)” as if that was going to change my mind about letting someone stay when SHE hadn’t had the guts to communicate with me.
I felt under the circumstances that it was only right for her to ask beforehand so I had a chance to decide or make alternative plans for myself.